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At Lavendla, we know that personal development, self-leadership, and mental strength are important. Understanding yourself better can be the key to unlocking your potential.

Life coaching is a broad concept that includes many different methods and modalities. What all coaching has in common, though, is that the focus is always the same: you! Life coaches know that you have your own answers and solutions, and can help you find them within yourself!

In this article, we will explore Life Coaching and how it can help you take the next step on your personal development journey.

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Create the life you’ve always wanted

In 2023, Statistics Canada found that only 50% of adults felt a high level of satisfaction with their lives. We often forget to be proud and happy of who we are and what we have achieved.

We chase that “great happiness.” But what is that? A promotion? New gadgets? A bigger friend group?

When we don’t allow ourselves to stop and reflect on what happiness means to us, we keep chasing it. Not stopping to think about where we are going is unsustainable. It leads to a lack of clarity, which then leads to stress. Prolonged negative stress can negatively affect our health, which can make the happiness we are chasing seem even more distant.

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Life is a puzzle

In the midst of all this, life goes on. You have to perform at work, in your studies and in your relationships. Multitasking often seems like the only solution to manage all this. However, research shows that multitasking is not nearly as effective as we think.

We often talk about needing a balance between work and private life. Quite commonly, however, we leave the most important aspect out: the self- you! In all this, there is no room for what you need, for your own growth as a human being.

With your life coach, you go on a journey of discovery of your own reality and inner self. What is it that you can’t put together in the puzzle of life? How do you want your life to be? Where should you start?

The balance wheel as a starting point in life coaching

Many life coaches use the wheel of balance (also known as the Wheel of Life) as an initial tool to help you identify where your journey should begin. The wheel is divided into different pieces, if you don’t know where to start your journey, you can use the different parts of the wheel (finances, relationships, physical well-being, close relationship, personal development, physical environment, rest and relaxation, profession and career). Our professional coaches meet you where you are to support your development.

From current state to desired state

Like all coaches, regardless of specialization, a life coach starts from your current situation. Together you explore what the different aspects of your life look for you right now.

Next, you look at how you would like the different aspects of your life to be. Based on this, it becomes easier to see where to focus and therefore where to start. Experience shows that a change in one part of your life also affects the others in a positive way.

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It is becoming increasingly apparent that we need clarity and direction in our lives. Professor Michael Argyle of the British Psychological Society said that by engaging deeply with something we can also feel deep satisfaction. It’s all about becoming part of something bigger. It’s the outlet for what we are interested in and want to contribute to.

Author and speaker Prem Rawat links the concept of happiness with inner peace and awareness. In other words, you know who you are and what you want. It is about having the courage to be in the moment with yourself.

Life coaching sets the direction

Choosing life coaching is about taking control of the direction of your life. It’s about seeing a clear goal and working to reach it. You are the one that’s in control. Your life coach can show you the obstacles that are in your way, and help you overcome them.

In life coaching, there is a focus on your self-esteem and self-confidence. This is because no matter what your reason for coaching is, there is always one main focus: you! Through coaching, you can highlight what will be possible for you when you reach your desired destination. Life coaching is a journey of discovery about you and your perception of yourself. In the process, you get to see your own possibilities, and in turn, worry less about how others think of you.

No matter why you choose to work with a life coach, you will gain greater self-awareness. In turn, you will be able to start looking for answers to your questions. Questions can be about anything from career and relationships to who you want to be as a person.

Our coaches help you clarify what you want and support you every step of the way. The coach you choose will accompany you throughout your process as you develop towards your goal and your full potential.

Is it time to take the step?

Are you thinking that maybe you should change your career or want to improve your relationships? If you feel that life hasn’t turned out the way you once hoped, or you don’t know what you want in life, it may be time to consider taking action. Coaching is an investment in yourself that can give you answers and help you with personal development.

After working with a coach:

  • 80% of clients felt they had improved self-confidence.
  • 73% of clients felt they had improved their relationships
  • 72% of clients felt they had improved their ability to communicate
  • 67% of clients felt they had a better work/life balance.

(Survey by the International Coaching Federation, 2017)

Examples of different types of life coaching

  • Career coaching: helps individuals see their strengths and abilities in order to make decisions about their working lives. Whether it’s training, changing jobs, or staying put.
  • Relationship coaching: explores existing and desired relationships, focusing on maintaining and developing strong, healthy relationships. It can be further specialized for couples, parents, and workplaces.
  • Self-image coaching: focuses on strengthening the individual’s self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.

There are a variety of niches in coaching. Here at Lavendla, you can find information about several of the most sought-after modalities our coaches can provide. No matter what your situation is, your coach will offer different tools and strategies that are customized for you. This will help you become more aware of your strengths and weaknesses and thus improve your quality of life.

When should I choose life coaching?

If you know that you want change but you’re not sure what that would even look like, life coaching is a good place to start.

Through life coaching, you will also learn to prioritize differently than before. Changing habits is energy-intensive. Therefore, it is important to learn how to deal with this sustainably. Coaching is a long-term collaboration where you can develop perseverance. A life or health coach, for example, can help you maintain the healthy life you’ve worked hard to develop.

If your inner negative thoughts are taking over and preventing you from doing what you want, life coaching is also something you should consider. Life coaching will help you explore what is important to you, which can help you address and counteract your negative thoughts. Most importantly, you will become aware of how incredibly competent you are!

Life coaching is also for those who want to be happier, feel more motivated, more committed, and free. This starts by clarifying with your life coach what this means for you. Your idea of happiness, for example, is not the same as anyone else’s. They may be similar, but that doesn’t mean you can copy someone else’s solution. You are your own unique person who deserves their own unique solutions.

Can I talk about my career with a life coach?

Life coaching can be just as good for those who are wondering about their career. It doesn’t matter whether you have a job or not. The only question is what you want to do. Sometimes it can be difficult to know. Therefore, together with your life coach, you will explore your strengths and what is important to you.

Still feeling unhappy after getting the high-paying job you’ve been wanting can be a good indication that a change needs to be made. A life coach can help you see what’s wrong, or if it’s really success in money that’s important to you.

Many people also choose to work with a life coach when they have concerns about their employment or starting their own business.

The benefits of professional help

Taking the step to talk to a professional coach can make a huge difference in your life. It can help you see your problems or challenges from a new angle and can also offer practical solutions that you might not have thought of on your own.

Many people think that coaching is only for those with complex mental illnesses or “big” life problems, but this is far from the truth. Coaching can be extremely beneficial even for people who are simply looking for support or guidance in life. Researchers at the University of Ottawa found that having access to coaching improved satisfaction in multiple aspects of physicians’ lives.

10 frequently asked questions about coaching

What can a life coach help with?

A life coach works to guide and support individuals through personal development, career development, and achieving specific goals. It is important to note that life coaches are not therapists and focus more on the future than dealing with the past.

Common areas where a life coach can offer support include:
– Personal development and self-awareness.
– Career development and career change.
– Work-life balance.
– Improving relationships and communication.
– Time management and productivity.

How much does it cost to see a life coach?

The cost of hiring a life coach can vary widely depending on the coach’s experience, specialization, and location. Lavendla coaches can often offer package rates for multiple sessions, which can be a more cost-effective option.

How do I choose the right life coach for me?

Choosing the right life coach requires some research and thought.

Here are some steps to follow:
1. Identify your goals and what you hope to achieve with coaching.
2. Search for coaches who specialize in your areas of interest.
3. Read reviews and get testimonials if possible.
4. Schedule an introductory meeting to see if you have good chemistry.
5. Have an open conversation about costs, expectations and what the coaching process can look like.

What is the difference between a life coach and a therapist?

The main difference between a life coach and a therapist is in their focus and training. Therapists are licensed to treat and sometimes diagnose mental health concerns and often focus on processing past events. Life coaches, on the other hand, focus on helping clients achieve specific goals and create positive changes in their lives with a focus on the future. Both can be valuable depending on your needs and situation.

How can I start with personal development?

To start your personal development journey, begin by identifying your goals and setting up an action plan. It can be helpful to talk to a coach, therapist, or psychologist for guidance and support.

Can life coaching be done online?

Yes, Lavendla life coaches offer online sessions via video or phone call. This makes it easier to fit sessions into a busy schedule and gives you access to coaches worldwide. Online coaching can be just as effective as in-person and offers flexibility for both client and coach.

Is online coaching effective?

Online coaching has proven to be an effective method of personal development and offers the advantage of flexibility and convenience. However, it may be important to ensure that your coach is qualified and certified if you are not hiring a coach through Lavendla.

Is life coaching effective?

The effectiveness of life coaching depends on several factors, including the individual’s commitment, the specificity of the goals, and the relationship between coach and client. Many people report significant improvements in their quality of life, productivity, and personal satisfaction. An open mind and willingness to work towards change is essential to get the most out of the coaching process.

How often should I meet with my life coach?

The frequency of meetings with a life coach varies depending on the individual’s needs, goals and the specific structure of the coaching. Some may prefer weekly sessions to maintain momentum and focus, while others may meet with their coach every two weeks or even monthly. It is important to discuss and agree on a schedule that suits both you and your coach.

What can I expect during my first session with a life coach?

During the first session, your life coach will likely ask a series of questions to understand your goals, challenges, and what you hope to achieve with the coaching. This may include discussions about your current situation, desired changes, and any obstacles you are facing. The goal is to create a clear picture of your path forward and start planning how to achieve your goals.

How do I know if I need a life coach?

If you feel stuck in any area of your life, want to make a change but are unsure where to start, or if you have specific goals you are struggling to achieve on your own, a life coach may be right for you. Life coaching can give you the tools, perspective, and support to navigate change and achieve your personal and professional goals.

What should I do if I don’t feel any improvement with my life coach?

Communication is key. If you do not feel any improvement, it is important to first discuss your feelings and experiences with your coach. It may be necessary to adjust goals, and methods or even consider changing coaches if the style or method does not suit you. A good life coach should be open to feedback and willing to adapt to better meet your needs.

How to get help with your personal development, step-by-step

Pursuing your full potential is a journey that requires commitment, work, and mental focus. Therefore, we have developed a step-by-step guide that includes elements of mental training and coaching to help you start your journey.

Step 1: Self-reflection

Purpose: Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and goals.
Action plan: Use tools like SWOT analysis or journaling to identify your core values and ambitions. Map out what you contain and why you have become who you are.

Step 2: Goal setting

Purpose: Set clear and measurable goals.
Action plan: Use S.M.A.R.T. criteria or other mapping to define your goals.

Step 3: Scheduling

Purpose: Create a realistic and achievable plan.
Action plan: Use calendars and planning tools to prioritize time to work on your goals.

Step 4: Mental and Emotional Training

Purpose: Improve your mental and emotional state and focus.
Action plan: Use techniques such as meditation, mindfulness, and visualization.

Step 5: Coaching/Therapy

Purpose: Gain external insight and hold yourself accountable.
Action plan: Engage a professional coach, therapist, or mentor to guide you. You will be given exercises to practice between sessions.

Step 6: Monitoring and follow-up

Purpose: Make sure you are on track.
Action plan: Regular evaluations and adjustments to your plan.

Step 7: Feedback and adjustment

Purpose: Understand the impact of your efforts and make necessary adjustments.
Action plan: Ask for feedback from trusted sources and make adjustments to your plan accordingly.

Step 8: Reward and Recognition

PurposeCelebrate your progress.
Action plan: Set smaller milestones and reward yourself when you achieve them.

Should I work on personal development?

Working on personal development can be challenging but extremely rewarding. Instead of struggling to manage stress or emotions on your own, professional support can help you achieve the results you’ve been looking for. On our platform, you can easily get in touch with coaches, therapists or psychologists who can support you on your journey and make the difficult easier.

How can life coaching help my self-esteem and confidence?

Working with a life coach allows you to find out who you are. Your coach will help you find strategies to address and cope with negativity, whether it comes from inside you or those around you.

Different exercises can give you the opportunity to practice increasing your self-worth. Knowing that you are good enough is the first step towards developing self-confidence. After that, it is easier to see what steps you need and can take to realize and achieve your goals.

How many times should you see a life coach?

You and your coach will explore what your needs are and will set an overall goal, as well as smaller milestones for each interaction. Each meeting helps you become aware of your strengths and brings you closer to your goal.

The number of sessions will vary from person to person. It is not the number of coaching sessions that is important, but the result. You and your coach will come up with a plan, and determine how often and how long you should meet for.

How does coaching work?

Our coaches are as unique as the people seeking them out! The common factor: they are here for you and are responsible for ensuring that you get somewhere in each conversation together. Each conversation gives you time to think, reflect, and perhaps do an exercise. Your coach strives to help you gain insight and learn something about yourself during each session.

Each conversation with your coach is linked to the overall goal you have set for the collaboration.

Although our coaches have many different methods and approaches, the common denominator is that they:

  • first and foremost support you to find your own answers – your coach is not a mentor or advisor.
  • reach an agreement with you on the outcome of the whole partnership, but also on what you want from each conversation.
  • invite you into the collaboration by asking questions that are about you. It is by becoming aware of yourself that you will also be able to take steps to reach your goals.
  • give you most of the speaking space. Our coaches customize their communication based on you. They know that some people may find it difficult to put their thoughts into words and have ways to help with this.
  • challenge you to find the smallest possible steps you can take right away to start your journey toward your goal.
  • end the conversation in a way that you have agreed upon. The ending gives you time to reflect on the insights you have gained from the conversation.
  • normally do not take notes.
  • are committed to confidentiality.

Ready when you are!

When you feel like it’s time to invest in your personal development, we have qualified coaches who can help you. Because coaching is confidential and individualized, you can feel confident that you can develop on your own terms. Our core principle is to make the difficult easier.

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Written by Ellen Lindgren

Licensed psychologist

Ellen is a licensed psychologist and has experience mainly in clinical psychology where she has worked with various conditions such as stress, anxiety, depression, insomnia, crises and trauma in primary care and psychiatry. She has also worked with research while studying in the US and with affective disorders and insomnia at Karolinska Institutet, Sweden.