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Do you have a strong need to be in control of situations, other people or yourself? Are you in a controlling relationship? Help is available.
A need for control means a strong desire or need to be in control of situations, people, environments or oneself. It can manifest itself in different ways and in varying degrees of severity depending on the individual and the circumstances.
People often have a desire to control and predict outcomes and may have a need for order and structure. The need for control can affect both personal and professional relationships. If you are a victim of someone with a need for control, it is okay and beneficial to seek help.
It is also important to seek help for yourself if you notice that you have a need to control that has negative consequences.
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Control issues can have various causes, including personality traits, past experiences, or as a reaction to stress or trauma. In some cases, it can be linked to underlying psychological conditions such as anxiety disorders or obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). It can also be a component of eating disorders and personality disorders. It is also common in neuropsychiatric problems, such as autism.
Control issues are not a psychiatric diagnosis, but they can be part of other mental health problems. This does not mean that having a need for control does not cause suffering that can affect both you and others, but the good thing is that it can be treated.
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Control issues in relationships involve a person trying to dominate and control their partner’s behaviour, thoughts and feelings. This can arise from a desire to feel secure and stable, which can come from a personal lack of trust. The reason why people develop a need for control in relationships can be a result of, among other things, early experiences in relationships, uncertainty about their own identity and low self-esteem.
If a person has a need for control in a relationship, they tend to monitor their partner and restrict them in various ways. Emotional manipulation, such as using guilt and shame, is also common to get the person to do what they want. Criticism and belittling can also be used to reduce the partner’s self-confidence. Other ways of exercising negative control include controlling the partner’s finances. You can also be jealous and isolate the person in various ways.
The need for control can also occur in other relationships such as with parents and friends. The person being controlled can feel stifled, diminished and insecure, which can lead to low self-esteem and depression. In the long run, this behaviour can lead to several negative consequences, as it becomes difficult for both parties to trust and respect each other.
Controlling relationships can develop into violent relationships and it is important to seek help as soon as possible. If necessary, utilize the Canadian Government’s family violence resources or the police if you are living in a violent relationship.
The need for control is often high in people who are perfectionists. They want to be able to predict things and are inflexible in the face of changes such as when things don’t turn out the way they want. If you are a perfectionist, you may have difficulty trusting others and delegating tasks, which leads to stress because you have to do everything yourself. If things are not perfect, you may also become frustrated and angry. This can affect relationships and make it difficult to work with others.
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The symptoms of control issues can vary, but usually, they involve a pattern of behaviour where a person is constantly trying to control and influence their environment, including people, situations and outcomes. This can manifest itself in different ways:
If you recognize these symptoms, it is good to seek help to change these thought patterns and attitudes. This can reduce your stress, make you feel happier and increase your quality of life.
If you feel an overwhelming need for control, you may benefit from psychological treatment to manage your behaviours and emotions. Therapies such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can be particularly useful for learning how to deal with the need for control and working with underlying thoughts and feelings. For more severe concerns, schema therapy can also be a helpful method, working more on patterns that have been present since childhood.
Treatment for control issues usually involves working on the underlying causes, learning new patterns of behaviour and developing healthier ways of managing your thoughts and responding to different situations. Stress management and relaxation techniques can be used. Emotional management and communication skills are also usually part of the treatment to improve relationships. If necessary, medication can be helpful in combination with psychotherapy.
It is important to remember that treatment may vary depending on the person’s unique needs and situation. Professional help from a psychotherapist, psychologist or doctor may be necessary to determine the most effective treatment plan.
Talking to a professional therapist or psychologist can not only help you understand yourself better but also offer treatment to improve your quality of life. You are not alone and it is okay to ask for help.
If you or someone you know has controlling behaviours and beliefs, it is good to talk to a professional therapist or psychologist. We assure you that all therapists and psychologists on our platform are qualified and that your conversation is always confidential. Don’t be afraid to take the first step.
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A need for control means a strong desire or need to be in control of situations, people, environments or oneself. It can manifest itself in different ways and in varying degrees of severity depending on the individual and the circumstances.
The need for control is not a psychiatric diagnosis but it can occur in various psychiatric conditions. It is a way of coping with life but can also be a personality trait.
Control issues can have various causes, including past experiences or reactions to stress or trauma. In some cases, it can be linked to underlying psychological conditions such as anxiety, eating disorders, personality disorders and neuropsychiatric problems.
People often have a desire to control and predict outcomes and may have a need for order and structure. Control issues can affect both personal and professional relationships.
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is a form of treatment that focuses on thoughts, feelings and behaviours that can be helpful. There are also other methods such as schema therapy that can help to bring about change if you have more severe concerns.
Control issues can occur in several different psychiatric conditions such as OCD, eating disorders, personality disorders and autism. If you think you have any of these other conditions, it is important to seek help for them too.
First, it is good to recognize your problem behaviour and recognize that you could benefit from support. Then you can contact a licensed psychologist or therapist for help and support. It is possible to feel better.
If you have had an unpredictable childhood where you have not developed trust, you may have a need for control, but it can also be a result of life events such as trauma. If parents are controlling, you can also learn the behaviour from them. Help is available.
Yes, it can affect your ability to function by making you very stressed and making it difficult to cooperate with others. You can become very detail-oriented and have difficulty with changes, which can cause problems.
Being in a controlling relationship can be hard on self-esteem and confidence. If you feel bad in your relationship, you should seek help from a professional therapist or psychologist. If you have acute safety concerns, call 911.
It is possible to go to couple therapy to treat patterns in the relationship. However, if there is violence in the relationship, you should call 911. Feel free to book an initial consultation with one of our psychologists and therapists if the problems are at a milder level.
Through our website, you can book an initial session with a therapist or psychologist to describe your problems and start planning a treatment. We will help you make the difficult easier.
To address control issues in relationships, it is important to identify and work on these patterns and behaviours. Communication is also a crucial part of treatment; expressing feelings and needs in a healthy way can help resolve conflict and build a stronger, more equal relationship. It is also important for the person being controlled to set boundaries and communicate their needs clearly. Working through control needs in relationships is a process that requires time and patience. It is important to remember that both parties in a relationship deserve to feel respected, valued and free to be themselves.
If the relationship is destructive and abusive or if there is violence in the relationship, it is important to get help as soon as possible. This may mean utilizing family violence resources or calling 911 if necessary. Help is available.
Seeking help is a big step towards better health, it is a positive thing to decide to work on your wellbeing. Here is an overview of the steps usually involved in CBT treatment.
The first meeting with your psychologist or therapist is an assessment where you review your history and how the concerns have arisen. You may be asked questions about your life situation, feelings, thoughts and behaviours. You may also be asked to complete assessment forms.
This is where you and your therapist set concrete goals for the therapy, both short and long-term. It can identify which areas of your life are most affected by your problem and how you would like to change them.
This is the start of the actual treatment phase, which involves exercises aimed at giving you tools to overcome and process the concerns affecting you. This may include communication exercises and behavioural changes to manage emotions and thoughts.
Treatment is monitored regularly to see how well the therapy is working. If necessary, the treatment plan can be adjusted.
As the therapy comes to an end, it is time to reflect on the progress made. You will also receive a maintenance plan for how to use the tools and strategies you have learned in the future. It is also important to monitor your results over time.
If you or someone close to you is seeking professional help, do not hesitate to book a session with one of our licensed psychologists or therapists. Together, we make the difficult easier.
If you have thoughts of self-harm or suicidal thoughts, contact 911, call or text the National Suicide Hotline at 988, or go to your nearest emergency department.