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You might feel out of touch with what once drove you, and feel it is now time to explore your full potential. Whatever your motivation is, we can help you on your path to growth. Here we look at coaching and how it works.
It’s never too late to grow
We live in a time when personal development and self-leadership are important in our private lives, at work or when studying.
Whatever your age or life situation, chances are that you are interested in understanding yourself better and reaching your full potential.
In this article, we will explore the concept of coaching and how you can take the step to develop further – with the support of a coach.
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Coaching – a way to find answers that already exist within you
All coaching starts from a desire for change. Some changes are bigger, such as changing jobs, moving or creating new relationships (or nurturing old ones). Other changes involve chasing an idea, a goal, or a concept you’ve been thinking about, things you’d like to speak with someone about.
Coaching can help you find tools to reduce stress, prevent burnout, and create a better balance between work, life, and self.
Coaching is a collaboration between a coach and you as a client over a certain period of time. You set an overall goal for the collaboration. Your coach will ask questions and suggest exercises to allow you to find the answers you have not been able to reach. It is a matter of ordinary psychology.
The brain wants us to do what we’ve always done
Most of us want things to be easy. Or rather, our brains want things to be simple and familiar because it saves energy. We need that energy if the sabre-toothed tiger shows up and attacks. However, we don’t see that tiger in today’s society. Today, it’s more about deadlines, messy relationships or anything else where we need our mental energy to get through. Therefore, we avoid continuing to ask ourselves the important questions to get the answers we need.
What is really important to me? Why is it important? What does it mean for us and others around us when we make a change?
A professional coach is indispensable, because a coach dares to keep asking questions.
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The coach
Your coach has no agenda or self-interest in your collaboration. The coach is simply a questioner, a guide who is with you on the way to the goal you set. The coach’s responsibility is to make sure you stay on track towards the goal. Your responsibility is to want to make the change and to take the steps that lead you forward. Together you explore your questions and your answers.
With exercises and questions, the coach will help you dispel the thoughts you have. It can be about yourself, your relationships, your life, your career or anything else. The coach supports you to discover the answers you need. These are answers that you already have within you.
Our coaches are trained to accompany you on your journey towards development. They know what is needed to support you in finding your answers – and your strengths and motivations. These tools become part of your development.
Most of our coaches are certified through organisations such the ICF.
Is it time to take the step?
If you are:
- Feeling you are not at the place in life you once dreamed of and perhaps even set goals for.
- Feeling stuck or simply don’t know what motivates you to reach your full potential.
it might be time to consider whether coaching could be an investment in yourself. It can give you the answers and help you with personal development. Today, more and more people, including celebrities, are talking about how coaching has enabled them to develop. Coaching is no longer only reserved for elite athletes.
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Examples of different types of coaching
- Life coaching: The individual identifies their personal goals, with the help of the ‘Wheel of Life’. Through conversation, you find ways to achieve the goal. This includes finding the strengths that can help to succeed in each step.
- Health coaching: Helps peoples identify their health situation and find goals to maintain or create better health to increase well-being.
- Stress coaching: Specialises in stress management and finding a balance between work/study, personal life and self.
There are many different niches in coaching. Our site provides information on several of the most commonly requested types of coaching that our coaches offer. Whatever your situation, these forms of support offer different tools and strategies that are tailored to you. They help you to become more aware of your strengths and weaknesses and thus improve your quality of life.
Does coaching work?
There is research that shows that coaching works and why it does. Ph. D. Scott Dust, of the University of Cincinnati explains in a study that coaching promotes what is called ‘psychological capital’, i.e. self-confidence, hope, optimism and resilience. This capital constitutes a psychological resource that is useful in both work and private life. These factors are the basis for the success of a change. In addition, coaching provides you with tools to persevere and endure. You want the change to be lasting, don’t you?
In social media, we have been able to see figures from a survey (ICF Global Consumer Awareness Study 2022) that states that 41% feel that they have gained better self-esteem and self-confidence after working with a coach. 42% consider themselves to have improved their ability to communicate. This is affects both work and private life. Many companies are now hiring coaches for their management and staff. The US, UK and Germany have long seen the benefits of this collaboration.
Can anyone be coached?
Virtually anyone can be coached. Coaching is a collaboration between you and your coach. The only people who cannot be coached are those who simply do not want to.
Coaching is also suitable for those who are not looking to gain specific expertise, such as doctors, psychologists or engineers. They want to be healthy and gain life skills. Coaching supports you in developing your full potential.
People who choose coaching so not necessarily have any problems, just a desire to develop, change something, or ensure that they continue to grow. Coaches give you a range of tools that equip you to persevere until you reach your goal. Reflection, specifically, is a tool many people find they do not use enough. Reflection makes it possible to choose shorter and more effective paths towards the goal.
Can anyone be coached or do you have to have a problem?
What type of coach should you choose?
There are many niches in coaching, with varying degrees of specialisation. We present some of the common types of coaching here on our website that our coaches offer.
It is good to think about what it is you need a coach for. What do you want to achieve in the collaboration? If you are not sure, that is also part of the coach’s work, to help you see what you need. Often, they use a common tool called the ‘balance wheel’ (wheel of life) to help you see what you want to work on.
It is also important to feel that your coach is a good match. If you feel safe and confident in your coach, you will achieve results. Be aware, your coach will challenge you in different degrees, depending on your challenges. This is necessary when taking the step to do something new.
If you continue to do everything the same way as before, nothing will change.
That’s probably not what you want if are choosing to be coached.
How many times should you meet with a coach?
With your coach, you will explore your needs. Then clear goals will be set for your collaboration. Through questions and exercises, you will become aware of your strengths, supporting you to find your path to the goal. Between your sessions, you take the steps laid out.
The number of sessions depends on what you agree on. It is not the number of coaching sessions that is important, but the result. It is good to consider how long and how often you want to meet.
What if you don’t know what your goals are, but just feel something isn’t right?
The coach uses questions and exercises, with their trained ability to listen and be curious, to help you find what’s wrong. Then the process starts in working together to find the solution. Your individualised solution. Your coach always has your best interests at heart and is focused on you.
How does coaching work?
Our coaches have different styles of coaching. The common thing is that they are focused on you and responsible for ensuring you make progress in your conversations together. In each session, you will be made to think, reflect and perhaps do an exercise. The goal is for you to gain some insight and learn things about yourself before the session is over.
Everything you do in the conversation will be linked to the overall goal you have set for the collaboration.
Although our coaches work in different ways, the common denominator is that they:
- reach an agreement with you on the outcome of the whole partnership, but also on what you want from each conversation.
- first and foremost support you to find your answers – your coach is not a mentor or advisor.
- invite you into the collaboration by asking questions that are about you and not about the subject matter – It is by becoming aware of yourself that you will also be able to influence the outcome, i.e. the subject of the coaching.
- give you most of the speaking space. Our coaches customise the communication opportunity based on you. – They know that some people may find it difficult to put their thoughts into words and there are other ways to communicate.
- challenge you to find the smallest possible steps you can take today – or tomorrow – to start your journey towards your goal.
- end the conversation in a way that you have agreed upon – the ending gives you time to reflect on the insights you take away from the conversation.
- normally do not take notes.
- You do not have to worry that what is said in the session will be passed on, it is all strictly confidential.
The benefits of professional help
Taking the step to talk to a professional coach can make a huge difference in your life. The coach assumes you are fully capable of seeing your problems or challenges from a new angle. Through conversation, the coach helps you to explore this. You will find there are a lot of practical solutions you might not have thought of yourself.
We are ready when you are
When you feel it’s time to invest in your personal development, we have qualified coaches who can help you on your journey. Coaching is confidential, so you can feel confident in developing on your own terms. Our core principle is to make the difficult easier.
The only people who can’t be coached are those who simply don’t want to be. Coaching is a collaboration between you and your coach.
Coaching is also suitable for those who are not looking to gain specific expertise, such as doctors, psychologists or engineers. They want to be healthy and gain life skills. Coaching supports you in developing your full potential.
Not everyone who chooses coaching has problems. The common denominator is that they want to develop, change something, or ensure continued success. The coach will give you a range of tools that equip you to persevere and reach your goal. Reflection, specifically, is a tool many people find they do not use enough. Reflection makes it possible to choose shorter and more effective paths towards the goal.
10 frequently asked questions about coaching
u003cstrongu003eWhat is personal development?u003c/strongu003e
Personal development is a continuous process where you strive to improve yourself through various methods such as self-awareness, education and experience. It can include everything from setting goals and working towards them, to working on your self-esteem and communication skills.
u003cstrongu003eHow does mental training differ from personal development?u003c/strongu003e
Mental training focuses on developing mental skills such as concentration, self-control and mental well-being. Personal development is a broader category that can also include physical health, career and social relationships.
u003cstrongu003eWhat does a life coach do?u003c/strongu003e
A life coach works with you to help you identify and achieve your personal and professional goals. They can also help you with strategies to deal with stress and other mental challenges.
u003cstrongu003eIs mental training scientifically proven?u003c/strongu003e
Yes, mental training is supported by scientific research and is widely used in sports, business management and psychotherapy to improve performance and well-being.
u003cstrongu003eHow can I start with personal development?u003c/strongu003e
To start your personal development journey, begin by identifying your goals and setting up an action plan. It can be helpful to talk to a coach, therapist or psychologist for guidance and support.
u003cstrongu003eWhat tools are available for mental training?u003c/strongu003e
Some common tools include meditation, mindfulness, visualization and positive thinking. These practices can help you increase your focus and reduce stress.
u003cstrongu003e Is online coaching effective?u003c/strongu003e
Online coaching has proven to be an effective method of personal development and offers the advantage of flexibility and convenience. However, it may be important to ensure that your coach is qualified and certified if you are not hiring a coach through Lavendla.
u003cstrongu003eCan mental training help me with anxiety?u003c/strongu003e
Mental training can be an effective way to manage anxiety by teaching you relaxation and stress management techniques. In an acute mental health crisis, call 111 or visit 111.nhs.uk immediately.
u003cstrongu003eHow long does it take to see results from personal development?u003c/strongu003e
Results vary from person to person and depend on a range of factors, including your commitment and the specific goals. Personal development is an ongoing process and it can take time to see noticeable changes.
u003cstrongu003eWhat does a session with a life coach or psychologist cost?u003c/strongu003e
The cost of a session varies depending on the experience of the coach or psychologist and the length of session. Sessions generally cost between €30 – €100 each.
u003cstrongu003eDoes your personal development affect other people?u003c/strongu003e
Many who undertake personal development, find it has a positive impact on their relationships with other people. When you get to know yourself better, you become clear in your will. This can have a positive impact on relationships as you understand others better and they, in turn, understand you better. However, during the process of change, there may be some confusion from those around you. Some people may not recognise you because you are not ‘the same’? Many clients report they are very happy with the investment they have made in themselves and their relationships have improved.
How to get help with your personal development
Striving for your full potential is a journey that requires commitment, work and mental focus. We have developed a step-by-step guide that includes elements of mental training and coaching to help you start your journey:
- Step 1: Self-reflection
Purpose: Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and goals.
Action plan: Use tools like SWOT analysis or journaling to identify your core values and ambitions. Map out what you contain and why you have become who you are. - Step 2: Goal setting
Purpose: Set clear and measurable goals.
Action plan: Use S.M.A.R.T.E criteria or other mapping to define your goals. - Step 3: Scheduling
Purpose: To create a realistic and achievable plan.
Action plan: Use calendars and planning tools to prioritise time to work on your goals. Get other exercises that can focus more on emotions and body depending on what you need to practice more. - Step 4: Mental or Emotional Training
Purpose: Improve your mental and emotional state and focus.
Action plan: Use techniques such as meditation, mindfulness, and visualisation. - Step 5: Coaching
Objective: Gain external insight and hold yourself accountable.
Action plan: Hire a professional coach to guide you. You will receive exercises in the coaching session that you can then practice between sessions. - Step 6: Monitoring and follow-up
Purpose: Make sure you are on track.
Action plan: Regular evaluations and adjustments to your plan. - Step 7: Feedback and adjustment
Purpose: Understand the impact of your efforts and make necessary adjustments.
Action plan: Ask for feedback from trusted sources and make adjustments to your plan accordingly. - Step 8: Reward and Recognition
Purpose: Celebrate your progress.
Action plan: Set smaller milestones and reward yourself when you achieve them.
Is personal development for me?
Working on personal development can be challenging but extremely rewarding. Instead of struggling to manage stress or emotions on your own, you can train yourself mentally with professional help. Our websirte makes it easy to book a session with coaches, therapists or psychologists who can support you on your journey and make the difficult easier.
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