Everyone has moments of anxiety, but some have an intense fear of being watched and judged by others. This fear can affect work and social activities. When social anxiety prevents us from interacting with others, or makes us actively avoid situations, it may be time to seek help.
What is social anxiety?
Social anxiety, also known as social phobia, is a psychological condition characterised by an intense fear or anxiety in social situations. This can range from hanging out in small groups to larger social settings. Symptoms vary but often include an overwhelming sense of anxiety before, during and after social interactions.
Symptoms and signs
When talking about symptoms, it is important to understand that they can manifest themselves both physically and mentally. Common signs include:
- Heart palpitations and sweating in social settings.
- Anxiety or panic about meeting other people.
- Fear of being judged or criticised by others.
- Avoidance of social situations.
- It is not uncommon for people with social phobia to also experience depression or other anxiety-related conditions.
Causes of social anxiety
To understand this type of anxiety more deeply, it is important to consider its causes. Research points to a combination of genetic, psychological and environmental factors. Early experiences of criticism, bullying or anything else that makes you feel vulnerable in a social context can also contribute to the development of social anxiety.
Social anxiety and diagnosis
To establish a diagnosis, it is important to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. A thorough evaluation of your symptoms and how they affect your daily life is crucial in formulating the diagnosis.
Treatment options
A treatment for social anxiety varies depending on the severity of the condition. Common treatment methods include:
- Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT): This focuses on identifying and changing negative thought patterns and behaviours.
- Medication: May include antidepressants or beta-blockers to control symptoms.
- Self-help strategies and support groups: These can provide additional help and understanding.
Managing social anxiety in everyday life
To manage their anxiety, there are several strategies that can be helpful:
- Gradual exposure to social situations: Start with less challenging situations and work your way up.
- Mindfulness and relaxation techniques: These can help reduce anxiety levels.
- Seeking professional help: Working with a therapist can provide tools to manage anxiety.
When to seek help?
If you or someone you know is suffering from anxiety about certain situations and it is affecting your ability to live a normal life, it is important to seek help. There is no shame in asking for support. The first step may be to make an appointment with a psychologist or therapist.
The first step
Anxiety in any situation is a challenge but it is important to remember that help is available. By understanding the condition, its symptoms and treatment options, you can take the first step towards a better and more comfortable life. Lavendla makes the difficult easier by linking you with qualified therapists who can help you find balance with your anxiety.
The path to recovery
Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT)
CBT is one of the most effective methods for treating social anxiety. Through CBT, individuals learn to identify and challenge negative thought patterns and behaviours that contribute to their anxiety. This form of therapy often includes exercises in social situations and homework assignments aimed at gradually reducing anxiety.
Group therapy and support groups
Participating in groups with others who are also struggling with similar challenges can be hugely helpful. It offers a chance to share experiences, learn from others and feel less isolated in their struggle. Being in these groups can feel more safe than you are used to. The training to be among people could start here.
Medication
In some cases, medication such as antidepressants or beta-blockers can be part of the treatment. Medication can help manage the symptoms of anxiety and make it easier to participate in therapy and other activities.
Lifestyle changes and self-care
In addition to therapy and possibly medication, there are several lifestyle changes and self-care techniques that can help:
- Regular exercise: Physical activity can reduce stress and anxiety levels.
- Balanced diet: A nutritious diet can have a positive effect on your mental health.
- Adequate sleep: Sleep deprivation can worsen anxiety symptoms.
Social anxiety does not have to define your life. With the right support and strategies, you can manage and even overcome your anxiety. Remember that help is always available at Lavendla and that the first step towards improvement is often the most difficult.
Seeking help: the first step towards improvement
Admitting that you need help can be difficult, especially for someone struggling with anxiety. But seeking professional help is an important and courageous step. Here are some tips on how to approach this:
- Identify the right specialist: Search among our therapists or psychologists who have experience in treating anxiety in relation to social contexts.
- Prepare for the first meeting: Write down your thoughts and symptoms to help you describe your situation.
- Be open and honest: The more you share with your therapist, the better they can help you.
Online resources and support
There are many online resources for those struggling with social anxiety. Below you will find frequently asked questions and answers, as well as an overview of what treatment might look like. When you feel ready, it is easy to book an initial online session with one of our therapists to discuss a suitable treatment programme.
Helping someone with social anxiety
If you know someone who suffers from social anxiety or avoids social situations, there are ways you can support them:
- Listen without judgement: Sometimes we just need someone to listen. Approach the person with curiosity and respect for their experiences.
- Encourage, but don’t force: Try to encourage them to seek help or participate in social activities, but respect their boundaries.
- Learn more: Understanding more about social anxiety can help you be a better support.
Remind the person that they are not alone. Social anxiety is a common condition and there are many people and resources out there that can help. By seeking help, utilising available resources, and practicing self-care, they can take control of their anxiety and live a more balanced life.
20 common questions and answers about social anxiety
How do you know if you have social anxiety?
Identify your anxiety by recognising symptoms such as persistent fear or anxiety in social situations, where you fear being judged or humiliated. Other symptoms can be difficulties interacting with others, avoidance of social settings, and feelings of inadequacy. If these feelings are persistent and affect your everyday life, they may be signs of social anxiety.
How do I get rid of my social anxiety?
Overcoming anxiety is a process that can include therapy, such as CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), self-help strategies, and sometimes medication. Developing skills to manage anxiety, such as relaxation techniques and gradual exposure to anxiety-provoking situations, is important. Talking to a psychologist or therapist can provide support and targeted strategies to manage the anxiety.
How to help someone with social anxiety?
Supporting someone with social anxiety involves being understanding, listening without judgement, and encouraging social interaction without being pushy. Encouraging professional help can be important, as can showing empathy and understanding their challenges. Providing information about anxiety and its management can also be helpful.
How to get rid of social phobia?
Managing social phobia can involve therapeutic approaches such as CBT, which teaches how to identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviours. Self-help groups, mindfulness, and relaxation techniques can also be useful. In some cases, medication, such as antidepressants or anti-anxiety drugs, may be recommended by a doctor.
What is the difference between social anxiety and panic disorder?
Social anxiety focuses on the fear of social situations and the worry of being judged by others. Panic disorder is characterised by sudden, intense attacks of anxiety and physical symptoms such as heart palpitations, sweating, and shortness of breath. These two can overlap, but the treatment and management can vary depending on the specific diagnosis.
Is social anxiety hereditary?
Social anxiety can have genetic factors, but environment and experiences also play a big role. Even if a loved one has social anxiety, it is not a guarantee that they will develop it themselves. It is a combination of genetics, personal experiences and environmental factors that contribute to the development of this type of anxiety.
What are the physical symptoms of social anxiety?
Physical symptoms of social anxiety can include heart palpitations, sweating, trembling, dry mouth, upset stomach, muscle tension, and sometimes difficulty speaking. These symptoms often occur in social situations that provoke anxiety and may be part of the body’s fight or flight response.
Can social anxiety lead to other mental health problems?
Social anxiety can increase the risk of other mental health problems such as depression, other anxiety disorders and substance abuse. It is important to seek help early to reduce the risk of these conditions developing or getting worse.
How does treatment for social anxiety in children differ from adults?
Treatment for social anxiety in children often focuses more on the family and school. Therapies such as play and art therapy can be used to help children express their feelings. For adults, treatment focuses more on individual therapies and self-help strategies, although family and social networks remain important support resources.
How to distinguish between shyness and social anxiety?
Shyness is a personality trait where a person may feel nervous or uncomfortable in social situations, but it does not necessarily prevent them from participating in them. Social situation anxiety is more intense and can lead to avoidance of social settings, significant anxiety and impact on daily activities and relationships.
Can diet and exercise influence social anxiety?
Diet and exercise can have a positive impact on mental health, including social anxiety. Regular exercise has been shown to reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. A balanced diet can also contribute to better mental health. However, these measures do not replace professional treatment but are complementary.
Are there self-help books that can help with social anxiety?
There are self-help books that can be helpful for people with social anxiety. These books often offer strategies based on cognitive behavioural therapy, relaxation techniques, and other methods to manage anxiety. However, it is important to supplement the reading with professional counseling if necessary.
How does social media affect social anxiety?
Social media can both exacerbate and help manage social anxiety. On the one hand, comparison and exposure to idealised lifestyles on social media can increase feelings of inadequacy and anxiety. On the other hand, supportive online communities and access to information can be helpful. It is important to be aware of how social media affects your level of anxiety.
What role do mindfulness and meditation play in the treatment of social anxiety?
Mindfulness and meditation are effective tools for managing social anxiety. These techniques help one focus on the present moment and reduce negative thought patterns. Regular practice can reduce stress, increase self-awareness, and improve emotional regulation, which is important in managing social anxiety.
How long does it take to overcome social anxiety?
The time it takes to overcome social anxiety varies from person to person. It depends on several factors, including the severity of the anxiety, the individual’s unique circumstances, and the type of treatment used. Some may notice improvements relatively quickly, while for others it may be a longer process. Patience and perseverance are important in this journey.
Can alcohol and drugs affect social anxiety?
Alcohol and drugs can temporarily reduce the symptoms of social anxiety but in the long term they can make the condition worse. They can lead to increased dependence, tolerance development and a deterioration in overall mental health. Avoiding or reducing the use of these substances is an important part of the management and treatment of anxiety.
What role does sleep play in the management of social anxiety?
Good quality sleep is essential for mental health and can help manage social anxiety. Sleep deprivation can increase feelings of anxiety and stress, while regular and good sleep can improve emotional regulation and stress management. Maintaining a healthy sleep routine is therefore an important part of managing anxiety.
Are there group treatments for social anxiety?
Group treatments for social anxiety exist and can be very effective. Individuals share experiences and strategies with others who are experiencing similar challenges. Social skills exercises and exposure techniques are offered in a safe and supportive environment.
How to deal with anxiety in social situations in real time?
To manage anxiety in real-time social situations, you can use breathing techniques, focus on the present moment (mindfulness), and use positive self-talk. It can also help to have a plan for the situation, such as preparing conversation topics or having an excuse to take a break if it becomes overwhelming.
What is the difference between social anxiety and introversion?
Social anxiety is an anxiety disorder where the fear of social situations is so intense that it affects a person’s ability to function in everyday life. Introversion is a personality trait where individuals prefer quiet, less stimulating environments and may enjoy being alone. Introverts may be comfortable in social situations, but they often need time alone to recharge their batteries.
Managing social anxiety: A step-by-step guide
Anxiety in social settings can be a challenging experience but with the right strategies and support it is possible to manage and improve the situation. Here are steps to help you, or someone you know, deal with anxiety.
Understanding social anxiety
Learn about what is affecting you: Understand the basic aspects of your type of anxiety, including its symptoms such as heart palpitations, difficulty speaking in social situations, and fear of being judged.
Identify your triggers: Try to identify situations or specific circumstances that trigger your anxiety. These can be social events, public speeches, or even small group situations.
Self-help and self-awareness
Breathing techniques: Learn breathing techniques and relaxation exercises that can help reduce anxiety in the moment.
Positive self-talk: Practice replacing negative thoughts with more positive and realistic statements.
Gradual exposure: Start with small, manageable social interactions and gradually build up to more challenging situations.
Seek professional help
Consult a therapist: Consider talking to one of our psychologists or therapists specialising in anxiety disorders.
Consider group therapy: Group therapy can provide support from others experiencing similar challenges.
Medical advice: In some cases, medication may be recommended. Discuss this with a doctor to understand the pros and cons.
Build a supportive network
Talk to loved ones: Share your experiences with family and friends who can offer support.
Seek support groups: Join online or local support groups where you can share experiences and get advice.
Long-term management
Set realistic goals: Set small, realistic goals for social interaction and gradually work towards them.
Keep a diary: Start keeping a diary of your progress as this can help you see your development over time.
Self-care: Prioritise self-care, including physical activity, good sleep and a nutritious diet.
Remember that each person’s journey is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Take small steps and be patient with yourself. Lavendla’s therapists are ready to guide you along the way. Book an initial session through our website to discuss your situation and agree on a treatment programme.