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Sometimes we can feel as if we are standing still, or want to discover our potential. Whatever your motivation is, we can help you develop!

It’s never too late to grow

These days, personal development and mental growth are central to many people’s lives. No matter your age or life situation, chances are you are interested in understanding yourself better and reaching your full potential.

Here we explore the concept of personal development, different forms of therapy, and how you can take the step to develop further with the support of a psychologist, therapist, or coach.

Mental training as a science

Mental training is about using psychological methods and techniques to improve one’s mental skills. It has its roots in cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), an effective treatment for many psychological conditions.

Development through mental training has long been used by entrepreneurs and athletes, but you don’t have to have elite-level ambitions to benefit from mental training.

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Is it time to take the plunge?

If you feel stuck, unmotivated, or just feel like you’re not living up to your full potential, it might be time to consider personal development as an investment in yourself. Perhaps you’ve already been exposed to it through social media influencers or friends who have developed in a positive way? You don’t have to be an elite athlete to want to reach the next level.

Different types of therapy and coaching

  • Developmental CBT: A method that focuses on changing destructive thought patterns and behaviours.
  • Psychosynthesis therapy: This focuses on wants and needs. You find out what you desire and get tools to ‘become who you are’.
  • Life Coaching: Helps individuals identify and achieve personal goals.
  • Stress Coach: Specialises in stress management and work-life balance.

Whatever your situation, these forms of support can offer different tools and strategies that can be tailored to you. They can help you become more aware of your strengths and weaknesses and improve your quality of life.


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The benefits of professional help

Taking the step to talk to a professional coach, therapist or psychologist can make a huge difference in your life. It can help you see your problems or challenges from a new angle and offer practical solutions you might not have thought of on your own.

Many people believe therapy is only for those who suffer from mental illness, but this is far from the truth. Therapy and coaching can be extremely beneficial for people who are simply looking for support or guidance in life.

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When you feel it’s time to invest in your personal development, Lavendla has qualified therapists and psychologists available to help you on your journey. Your conversations are always strictly confidential. We aim to help make the difficult easier.


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10 frequently asked questions about personal development and coaching

What is personal development?

Personal development is a continuous process where you strive to improve yourself through various methods such as self-awareness, education and experience. It can include anything from setting goals and working towards them, to working on self-esteem and communication skills.

How is mental training different from personal development?

Mental training focuses on developing mental skills such as concentration, self-control and mental well-being. Personal development is a broader category that can also include physical health, career and social relationships.

What does a life coach do?

A life coach works with you to help you identify and achieve your personal and professional goals. They can also help you with strategies to deal with stress and other mental challenges.

Is mental training scientifically proven?

Yes, mental training is supported by scientific research and is widely used in sport, business management and psychotherapy to improve performance and well-being.

How can I start with personal development?

To start your personal development journey, begin by identifying your goals and setting up an action plan. It can be helpful to talk to a coach, therapist or psychologist for guidance and support.

What tools are available for mental training?

Some common tools include meditation, mindfulness, visualisation, and positive thinking. These methods can help you increase your focus and reduce stress.

Is online coaching effective?

Online coaching has proven to be an effective method of personal development and offers the advantage of flexibility and convenience. Lavendla ensures its coaches are qualified and certified, which is key to getting good results.

Can mental training help me with anxiety?

Mental training can be an effective way to manage anxiety by teaching you relaxation and stress management techniques. In serious cases, you should seek professional help or call 111.

How long does it take to see results from personal development?

Results vary from person to person and depend on a range of factors, including your commitment and the specific goals. Personal development is an ongoing process and it can take time to see noticeable changes.

How much does a session with a life coach or psychologist cost?

Sessions cost between €30-€100 each, depending on the coach’s experience and the length of session.

Does your personal development affect other people?

Many people who undergo personal development, where they become more aware of themselves, find it has a positive impact on their relationships with other people. When you get to know yourself better, you become more clear in your will. This can have a positive impact on relationships as you understand others better and they, in turn, understand you better. However, during the process of change, there may be some confusion from those around you. Some people might not recognise you because you are not ‘the same’? Many clients report they are ultimately happy with the investment they have made in themselves as their relationships have improved.

How to get help with your personal development

Striving for your full potential is a journey that requires commitment, work and mental focus. Therefore, we have developed a step-by-step guide that includes elements of mental training and coaching to help you start your journey.

  • Step 1: Self-reflection
    Purpose: Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and goals.
    Action plan: Use tools like SWOT analysis or journaling to identify your core values and ambitions. Map out what you contain and why you have become who you are.
  • Step 2: Goal setting
    Purpose: Set clear and measurable goals.
    Action plan: Use S.M.A.R.T criteria or other mapping to define your goals.
  • Step 3: Scheduling
    Purpose: To create a realistic and achievable plan.
    Action plan: Use calendars and planning tools to prioritise time to work on your goals. Get other exercises that can focus more on emotions and body depending on what you need to practice more.
  • Step 4: Mental or Emotional Training
    Purpose: Improve your mental and emotional state and focus.
    Action plan: Use techniques such as meditation, mindfulness, and visualisation.
  • Step 5: Coaching/Therapy
    Objective: Gain external insight and hold yourself accountable.
    Action plan: Engage a professional coach, therapist or mentor to guide you. You will be given exercises in the therapy room to practice between sessions.
  • Step 6: Monitoring and follow-up
    Objective: Make sure you are on track.
    Action plan: Regular evaluations and adjustments to your plan.
  • Step 7: Feedback and adjustment
    Purpose: Understand the impact of your efforts and make necessary adjustments.
    Action plan: Ask for feedback from trusted sources and make adjustments to your plan accordingly.
  • Step 8: Reward and Recognition
    Purpose: Celebrate your progress.
    Action plan: Set smaller milestones and reward yourself when you achieve them.

Is personal development for me?

Working on personal development can be challenging but extremely rewarding. Instead of struggling to manage stress or emotions on your own, you can train yourself mentally with professional help. Lavendla makes it easy to get in touch with therapists, coaches or psychologists to support you on your journey and make the difficult easier.


Written by Dominic Wardall

Dominic is a Cape Town-based copywriter and editor with extensive background and studies in psychology. Dominic is a central part of the articles written on Lavendla.