Attachment theory test
Here you can do a self-test to help you reflect on your attachment style based on attachment theory. It is possible to get help with your attachment if it affects your relationships.
How does the test work?
This self-test will help you identify which attachment pattern best suits you. The test is not a substitute for a professional assessment, but it can provide an insight into your relational patterns and how you relate to others.
Read each question and choose the option that best describes you. The scoring at the end of the test will help you determine which attachment type is most dominant for you. If you want to talk more about it, feel free to book a session with one of our psychologists or therapists here at Lavendla.
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Attachment theory was developed by psychiatrist John Bowlby and further developed by Mary Ainsworth. It describes how we form and maintain relationships based on our early experiences of security and care. Our relationships with parents or other significant caregivers during childhood shape our patterns of connecting with others in adulthood – in friendship, love and even work relationships.
Attachment theory identifies four main attachment styles:
- Secure attachment – People with secure attachment often have positive relationships, feel comfortable with closeness and can handle separations without major concerns. They have a stable self-esteem and feel confident in both giving and receiving love.
- Avoidant attachment – These individuals value independence highly and may find it difficult to be emotionally open in relationships. They may feel uncomfortable with deep closeness and may avoid being too dependent on others.
- Ambivalent (or anxious) attachment – People with this attachment type may feel strong anxiety in relationships and fear abandonment. They seek a lot of reassurance and may experience difficulties with trust.
- Disorganized attachment – This type of attachment is characterized by contradictory feelings. People may crave closeness on the one hand, but at the same time have difficulty trusting others. This may be the result of insecure or traumatic childhood experiences.
Understanding your attachment type can be a key to improving your relationships, breaking negative patterns and creating healthier emotional bonds with others.
