Jealousy test
Here you can do a self-test to help you reflect on whether you are jealous and what you can do about it.
How does this test work?
This self-test is not a diagnosis, but it can help you reflect on how your jealousy affects you and your relationships. If you recognise yourself in several statements and feel that jealousy is causing you or others suffering, it may be wise to seek support. Through therapy or counselling, you can learn to manage your feelings, boost your self-esteem and build safer relationships.
What should I do if I have symptoms of jealousy?
If the results raise questions and if your symptoms are affecting your functioning in your relationship or in other areas such as work, it is recommended that you seek professional help and treatment. At Lavendla, we have psychologists, therapists and coaches who can help. Feel free to book a first visit today.
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What is jealousy?
Jealousy is an emotion that most people experience at some point in their lives. It is a natural reaction when we perceive a threat to something we value – often a relationship or emotional closeness. However, when jealousy becomes excessive, controlling or has negative consequences for one’s relationships and well-being, it can be a sign of a deeper problem.
Jealousy often arises in close relationships, especially romantic ones, but it can also be present in friendships, work relationships or family ties. It can be triggered by actual events, such as infidelity, but also by personal thoughts, fears or past experiences. Jealousy can manifest itself in suspicion, a need for control, anxiety, anger, comparison with others or a constant need for affirmation.
Common signs of problematic jealousy:
- You often feel threatened by other people around your partner.
- You control your partner’s behaviour, social media or phone.
- You constantly need reassurances of love and fidelity.
- You compare yourself to others and feel inadequate.
- You feel worry, anger or anxiety at the thought of your partner being interested in someone else.
Some jealousy can signal that a relationship is important to us. However, when it becomes an obstacle to trust, security and openness, it can lead to conflict, distance and destructive patterns.
Understanding the cause of jealousy is an important step in managing it. Sometimes it is a matter of low self-esteem, past betrayals or an insecure attachment. Other times, it may be due to communication problems in the relationship or past negative experiences that affect the present.
