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Divorces are difficult and often incredibly challenging when there are children involved. Here we examine the dynamics of divorce and how to deal with them.
Going through a divorce is one of life’s most challenging periods, especially when children are involved. For children, parental separation can bring a world of change, uncertainty and emotional turbulence. As a parent, it is important to approach this sensitive situation with great care, understanding and support to mitigate its impact on your children.
Divorcing with children requires open communication, joint efforts to maintain stability and love, and strategies to manage the emotional well-being of both parents and children. Navigating the divorce in a way that protects the best interests of children and provides them with the security and structure they need is critical to their adjustment and long-term health.
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Telling children about divorce is a difficult conversation that requires care, sensitivity and honesty. It is important to adapt the conversation to the child’s age and maturity level, and to convey the message in a way that minimises anxiety and uncertainty. Here are some steps to facilitate the conversation:
Navigating a conversation about divorce requires time, patience and a lot of care. The primary goal is to reassure the child that they will continue to be loved and supported through this change.
Children’s reactions to divorce vary according to their age and stage of development. Young children may become more clingy and experience anxiety upon separation, while preschoolers may feel guilty and wonder if they are the cause of the divorce. School-age children may show signs of sadness, anger and anxiety about changes in everyday life. Teenagers may react with anger, rebellion or social withdrawal, and they may question their own relationships. Any age can experience emotional pain and confusion, but with the right support and communication, children can adapt and learn to cope with the change.
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To create a stable and positive foundation for children after a divorce, it is crucial to focus on communication, cooperation and consistency. Here are some key steps:
By creating a sense of normalcy, safety and love, children can better navigate the life changes of divorce and develop a strong foundation for the future.
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Going through a divorce is one of life’s most challenging periods, especially when children are involved. For children, parental separation can bring a world of change, uncertainty and emotional turbulence.
As a parent, it is important to approach this sensitive situation with great care, understanding and support to mitigate its impact on children.
Divorcing with children requires open communication, joint efforts to maintain stability and love, and strategies to manage the emotional well-being of both parents and children.
Informing children about divorce requires preparation, honesty and adapting the message to the child’s age to reduce anxiety. Key steps include planning a conversation with both parents present, reassuring them of the parents’ continued love, clarifying changes and constants in the child’s life, actively listening and answering questions, and offering support in dealing with emotions and changes.
Young children may become more clingy and experience anxiety during separation, while preschoolers may feel guilty and wonder if they are the cause of the divorce. School-age children may show signs of sadness, anger and worry about changes in their daily lives. Teenagers may react with anger, rebellion or social withdrawal, and they may question their own relationships.
Creating a stable foundation for children after divorce means maintaining open communication, collaborative parenting, and providing a stable environment, while ensuring parental love and managing adult conflicts away from children. Adapting the information and possibly seeking professional support, as well as introducing new traditions, can help the child adapt and feel safe through the change.
The older the child gets, the more consideration should be given to the child’s views on issues such as housing. Decisions should always be made in the best interests of the child.
There is no ideal age for children to experience divorce, as reactions vary with age, maturity, and support. What matters is how parents handle the separation, with open communication, stability, avoiding conflict in front of the child, and offering support. This can mitigate the negative effects on children of all ages.
A child psychologist is a licensed professional with knowledge and experience in working for the well-being and mental health of children and parents.
Child psychologists offer therapy and counselling, but also work with the whole family to offer support where needed. They also work with schools to help create good conditions for the child.
Lavendla’s child psychologists provide online counselling sessions via video conference.
Depending on how old your child is, you can contact your GP for a referral to one of several organisations that provide support. Lavendla also has experienced child psychologists who are ready to help.
Seeking help from a psychologist or therapist is an important step when a child is experiencing mental health difficulties or if you are having difficulties as a parent. Here is a brief overview of what treatment can look like:
First step: Initial consultation where the psychologist assesses needs through discussions with the child and parents.
Treatment plan: An individualised plan is developed, based on your specific situation and needs.
Types of therapy: Treatment method is adapted to the situation and may include play therapy for younger children, as well as talk therapy and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) for older children, which focuses on changing negative thought patterns and behaviours. Other methods such as couples therapy and family therapy can be helpful in managing relationships and separation.
Parental counselling: Parents receive guidance and support to better help their child at home.
Monitoring and adjustment: The treatment plan is continuously evaluated and adjusted as needed to ensure the best possible outcome.
Working with a psychologist can give you and your child the tools they need to manage their emotions and behaviours in a healthy way. At Lavendla, we have psychologists and therapists ready to help make the difficult easier.