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Sometimes we are just not in the mood. However, if you are constantly feeling irritable and overwhelmed you may consider seeking help. Here we look at irritation and how to deal with it.
Irritation is a common human emotion that can occur in a variety of situations and affects people in many different ways. It is an emotional response often triggered by frustration, stress, or the feeling of being overwhelmed by circumstances or other people’s behaviour.
While irritation itself is a natural and sometimes unavoidable part of the human condition, the way we manage and respond to these feelings is crucial to our emotional well-being and our relationships with others. Irritation can vary in intensity from mild discomfort to intense anger. Understanding its causes and effects can help us develop strategies to manage these emotions more constructively.
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By learning to identify what triggers our irritation and developing healthy ways to express and process these feelings, we can reduce its negative impact on our lives and improve our overall well-being and relationships.
Irritation can be caused by a range of factors, including high levels of stress or physical fatigue that reduce patience, unmet expectations from different situations or people, and communication problems that lead to misunderstandings. Differences in values, behaviours or personalities can also cause irritation, as well as feelings of powerlessness in situations where one cannot influence the outcome.
Physical discomfort or chronic pain, problems such as anxiety or depression, and environmental factors such as noise or extreme weather contribute to increased irritability. Hormonal changes, such as those that occur during pregnancy or the menstrual cycle, and lack of sleep also have a significant impact on mood and can make a person more prone to feeling irritable. Understanding these triggers is key to managing irritation more effectively.
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Managing anger towards a partner or child requires openly communicating the reasons for the anger in a non-accusatory way and taking breaks to calm down when necessary. Focusing on solutions and adjusting any unrealistic expectations can help improve the situation.
For children, it is important to try to understand their perspective, set clear boundaries, use positive reinforcement, set aside time to talk about their feelings, and model healthy behaviours to deal with frustration. Self-care also plays a key role in reducing irritation levels. By actively working on these strategies, irritation can be managed in a constructive way that strengthens relationships rather than damaging them, recognising that irritation is a natural part of human relationships.
Couples therapy is psychotherapy that helps couples resolve conflicts, improve communication and strengthen their relationship. It is suitable for couples in all relationship types and focuses on addressing issues that affect the health of the relationship. Together the therapist and couple work to understand the core issues, improve communication, manage disagreements and strengthen the relationship.
This involves exploring the history of the relationship, improving the expression of thoughts and feelings, addressing specific problems such as finances or parenting, and developing conflict management strategies. Couples therapy is valuable during crises such as infidelity or major change. The goal is to help the couple understand what is best for them, whether that means staying together or separating in a healthy way.
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The therapist acts as a neutral, supportive and objective party who helps the couple navigate through their problems without taking sides or placing blame. Seeking couples therapy can be a powerful step towards revitalising a relationship, and building a stronger, more fulfilling future together.
Couples therapy begins with initial sessions where the therapist gets to know the couple and their challenges, followed by setting joint goals to improve the relationship, such as better communication or conflict management. The work phase focuses on developing communication skills, resolving conflicts, working through emotional issues and introducing positive behavioural changes, with active input from both partners. The process ends with an evaluation and a plan to maintain and improve the relationship further. The therapist’s role is to guide and support the couple through this process, where the couple’s involvement is crucial for success. Couples therapy aims to provide insights and tools for a stronger and more satisfying relationship.
There are several different approaches to couples therapy, each with their own theoretical basis and techniques to help couples improve their relationships. Here are two evidence-based approaches that are commonly used in couples therapy:
IBCT aims to help couples accept the irreconcilable differences between them and work on increasing closeness and understanding by improving emotional acceptance and empathic communication. The method combines behavioural changes with acceptance strategies. It is an evidence-based approach, meaning that it has been shown to produce good results in research and is a further development of cognitive behavioural therapy for couples.
EFT is a method that focuses on strengthening the emotional bond between partners by exploring the emotional responses that underly the couple’s interaction patterns. The therapy helps couples identify and express their underlying emotional needs and learn to meet each other’s needs in a more satisfying way. EFT is an evidence-based approach that has been shown to produce good results.
Each method has its own strengths and may be more or less appropriate depending on the couple’s specific situation and needs. Things such as the Gottman Method, other couples therapies, and literature can also be helpful in learning more about relationships. Many couples therapists use a combination of these methods to best address the couple’s unique challenges.
Irritation is a common human emotion that can occur in many situations and affects people differently. It is an emotional response often triggered by frustration, stress, the feeling of being overwhelmed by circumstances, or other people’s behaviour.
Irritation can be caused by various factors, including high levels of stress or physical fatigue, unmet expectations, and communication problems leading to misunderstandings. Differences in values, behaviours or personalities can also create irritation, as can feelings of powerlessness.
Managing requires openly communicating the reasons for the irritation in a non-accusatory way and taking breaks when necessary. Focusing on solutions and adjusting expectations can help improve the situation. For children, it is important to try to understand their perspective, set clear boundaries, use positive reinforcement, set aside time to talk about their feelings, and model healthy behaviours to deal with frustration. If necessary, more help can be sought in therapy.
Communication about needs, focusing on solutions and expectations is important. If necessary, you can also go to couples therapy if there are patterns that are difficult to break on your own.
Couples therapy is a form of psychotherapy that aims to help couples understand and resolve conflicts, improve their relationship and communication, and strengthen the closeness of the relationship.
Treatment often starts with an assessment phase to identify problems and patterns. This is followed by an active treatment phase where work on tools and strategies to change patterns is central. Finally, there is a closing phase where the treatment is summarised for further work after the therapy.
IBCT (Integrative Behavioural Couples Therapy) is an evidence-based therapy that helps couples accept their differences and work on increasing closeness and understanding by improving emotional acceptance and empathic communication. It combines behavioural changes with acceptance strategies.
EFT (Emotionally focused therapy) is an evidence-based therapy that focuses on building and strengthening the emotional bond between couples by exploring and reshaping the negative patterns of interaction that contribute to conflict and distance in the relationship.
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If you feel annoyed with your children, it is important to try to understand their perspective, set clear boundaries, use positive reinforcement, set aside time to talk about their feelings, and model healthy behaviours to deal with frustration. If necessary, more help can be sought in therapy.
If you have problems with depression or other mental health issues such as addiction, it is important to seek help for this separately from couples therapy. These problems often need to be addressed before couples therapy to get a good result.
Contact your GP for a referral to a therapist. You can also book an online session with one of Lavendla’s experienced therapists. We help make the difficult easier.
Integrative behavioural couples therapy (IBCT) is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that aims to help couples improve their relationship by accepting each other and increasing the couple’s emotional closeness. IBCT combines traditional behavioural therapy techniques with a focus on both change and acceptance. Here is how a treatment with IBCT usually works:
IBCT focuses on helping couples develop a deeper understanding and acceptance of each other, which can lead to a more satisfying and sustainable relationship. By balancing acceptance with active change efforts, IBCT aims to reduce conflict, increase closeness and strengthen the emotional bond between partners.