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Sex addiction

When your sexual behaviors start to interfere with relationships, work, or finances, it might be time to get help. Here we explain what sex addiction is and what you can do about it.

What is sex addiction?

Sex addiction is a condition in which a person engages in excessive and compulsive sexual behavior. This can include preoccupation with masturbation, pornography, having sex with strangers, and sexual contact via chat and video. Individuals with a sex addiction are unable to stop on their own despite severe negative consequences. They typically have tried multiple times to limit their sexual activities without success and have suffered severe disruptions in their relationships. Sex addiction can occur in combination with pornography addiction.

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Sex addiction diagnosis

Sex addiction is not an official psychiatric diagnosis. It is primarily a term used to describe a set of behaviors that include a compulsion to perform sexual acts, obsessive thoughts about sex, and an inability to stop or limit sexual behaviors despite negative consequences.

Causes of sex addiction

The causes of sex addiction are complex and vary from person to person. There are likely neurobiological factors at play, such as changes in dopamine and serotonin that are part of the brain’s reward system. Individuals with a sex addiction may also experience a larger increase than usual in the hormone oxytocin that occurs during sex. Possible additional factors include biological vulnerabilities, psychological problems such as anxiety or depression, the influence of societal attitudes towards sexuality, sexual trauma, and early exposure to sexual activities at a young age.

It is important to note that causes are unique to each individual and it is usually a combination of several factors that come into play. Professional help can be essential to understand and manage the problem if someone is experiencing sex addiction.


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Infidelity

One consequence of sex addiction is infidelity due to the intense drive to engage in sexual behaviors. This can result in damaged relationships, social isolation, and decreased self-esteem. Family therapy or couples therapy may be able to help in these situations to improve communication and possibly repair the relationships.

ADHD and sex addiction

Individuals with ADHD are at higher risk than the general population of experiencing an addiction. People with ADHD often have difficulty with impulse control which can lead to various impulsive behaviors such as sexual acting out. It is possible to treat both ADHD and the symptoms of sex addiction simultaneously.

Sex addiction symptoms

If you suffer from a sex addiction, you might have these symptoms:

  1. Discomfort or inability to control sexual behavior: You may have difficulty controlling your sexual impulses and behaviors, which can lead to a pattern of compulsive sexual behavior. Examples include watching pornography, masturbation, or illicit sexual activities.
  2. Neglect of everyday activities: Sex addiction can lead to neglect of work, relationships, and other responsibilities.
  3. Increased sexual behavior despite negative consequences: Despite experiencing negative consequences from their sexual behavior, you may continue to act compulsively.
  4. Constantly thinking about sex: You might constantly think about sex, which can affect concentration and focus in other areas of life.
  5. Engaging in risky behaviors: You might seek out increasingly risky and dangerous sexual behaviors to achieve the same level of excitement or satisfaction.

If you are wondering whether you have a sex addiction or are at risk of developing one, it is important to seek help. Contact one of our experience therapists today to feel better soon.

Treatment for sex addiction

Fortunately, you’re not alone – between six and eight percent of American adults are addicted to sex, according to the Mayo Clinic. Lavendla psychologists and therapists who specialize in sex addictions can help. Treatment may involve a combination of interventions, support groups, and other therapeutic strategies to address the underlying causes of the addiction and develop healthier patterns of sexual behavior. Medications may be helpful as well, depending on the severity of your symptoms. For example, some research shows that Naltrexone, which is currently used to treat alcoholism, can be helpful for sex addictions.

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Reach your goals

Our therapists know that it is a huge step for someone to ask for help for a sex addiction. By working with a psychologist or therapist, you can begin to understand your symptoms and triggers, which is crucial for long-term change. Your therapist will be there to support and encourage you as you take a step of faith into new territory. You won’t be making changes alone – you’ll have a therapist right beside you.

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If you are experiencing signs of addiction that are affecting your physical, emotional, and psychological health, it’s not too late. Contact one of our qualified therapists today. 

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12 common questions and answers about sex addiction

What is sex addiction?

Sex addiction is a complex psychological condition where the individual feels an inability to stop engaging in excessive sexual activities despite negative consequences.

Is sex addiction a disease?

Yes, sex addiction is considered a disease because it affects the brain’s hormones, reward systems, and decision-making abilities.

Can sex addiction be cured?

Sex addiction can be cured with long-term care and support.

What are the signs that I may be a sex addict?

Symptoms of sex addiction include excessive compulsion to perform sexual acts, obsessive thoughts about sex, and loss of control or problematic sexual habits.

What are the risks of sex addiction?

The potential risks include physical problems, relationship difficulties, financial struggles, and increased likelihood of developing anxiety, depression, or other mental health problems.

How can I help a family member who is a sex addict?

The first step is to offer your support as they seek professional help and engage in treatment. Seek information about the problem if you find it difficult to understand. If your partner is addicted to sex, it may be helpful for you to seek therapy for yourself or as a couple.

What treatment options are available?

There are several different types of treatment for sex addiction such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

Can you have other mental health problems while being a sex addict?

As with other addictions, sex addiction can be linked to underlying mental health problems such as anxiety, depression, self-esteem problems or other mental health problems.

What can be done in case of relapse?

Relapse can happen and it is important to remain accountable and seek help immediately when it occurs so you can get back on track.

What resources are available?

In addition to professional therapists and psychologists, there are many websites, books, and support groups that can offer additional information and support.

Can I be treated online?

Yes, all of our therapists offer virtual sessions via our secure video conferencing platform.

How important is the support system around a person with an addiction?

A support system is crucial to successful recovery from an addiction. In addition to professional treatment, a strong informal support system can reduce the risk of relapse and help the person maintain a healthier lifestyle.

Treatment steps to improve quality of life

Treatment for a sex addiction can differ from person to person although they often follow a similar format. Below are examples of different steps in the process of treating a sex addiction.

  1. Evaluation and diagnosis
    The first step is often a thorough evaluation and diagnosis by a licensed psychologist or psychiatrist.
  2. Treatment planning
    An individual treatment plan is created, which often includes different treatment methods such as psychotherapy, drug treatment, and sometimes self-help groups.
  3. Psychotherapeutic treatment
    Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is the most commonly recommended method. It involves working with the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors associated with sex addiction. Relapse prevention is also usually part of the treatment.
  4. Follow-up and Maintenance
    Long-term treatment and follow-up are often necessary to prevent relapse. This may include regular meetings with health care providers and continued participation in support groups.
  5. Lifestyle changes
    Changes in lifestyle, including work, leisure and relationships, are often necessary to support long-term recovery.

Written by Emily Cox