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Do you struggle with managing your anger or getting upset? Anyone can experience anger, but if you frequently have outbursts and find it hard to control yourself, you may have an issue with aggression. Our therapists can help you gain control!

What is an aggression problem?

Anger problems are characterized by difficulties in healthily managing anger and aggression. This can manifest in explosive outbursts, constant irritability, or a tendency to react with violence or threats. Understanding that aggression problems affect individuals and their loved ones is essential.

Causes of aggression problems in adults

Many factors can contribute to aggression problems in adults, including:

  • Psychological factors: Stress, anxiety, or unresolved trauma
  • Biological factors: Imbalances in brain chemistry or hormones
  • Social factor: Conflict in relationships or the workplace

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Aggression in adults: signs and symptoms

Recognizing the signs of aggression problems is the first step towards seeking help. Common signs include:

  • Frequent outbursts of anger
  • Difficulty controlling their temper
  • Physical violence or threats of violence
  • Destructive behaviour towards oneself or others

Dealing with aggression: first steps

Dealing with aggression problems requires a conscious effort and often a change in how we relate to our emotions and environment. The first step in this journey is self-awareness – recognizing and accepting that you have a problem. This is the key to breaking negative behavioural patterns. Start by observing the situations and emotions that trigger aggressive behaviour. Is it stress at work, family conflicts, or perhaps feelings of inadequacy? By identifying these triggers, you can start working on reducing their impact. Awareness of your emotions can give you the time to choose a healthier response.

Physical activity

Physical activity is another vital part of managing aggression. Exercise releases endorphins, natural mood enhancers, and helps reduce tension and stress. Finding a form of physical activity that you enjoy can be an effective way to manage aggressive impulses.

Seek support

In addition to these self-help methods, it is also important to not hesitate to seek support. Talking to friends or family members about your challenges can be liberating and help you feel less isolated. It can also provide a new perspective on your problems and offer new solutions.


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Consider talking to a psychologist

Finally, if you feel that your aggression problems are overwhelming and affecting your daily life and relationships, you should consider seeking professional help. A psychologist can give you tools and strategies to effectively manage your anger and work towards a more balanced and harmonious life. Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Taking care of your mental health is as important as your physical health.

When should you seek professional help for aggression problems?

If your aggression problems affect your daily life or relationships, it is essential to seek professional help. A psychologist can offer strategies to manage anger and work on underlying causes.

How a psychologist can help

When it comes to aggression issues, a psychologist can be a valuable resource for understanding and managing these challenges effectively. Through individualised therapy sessions, the psychologist works with the client to explore the underlying causes of aggressive behaviour, which often includes reviewing past experiences, current stressors, and personal triggers. A key focus is developing self-awareness and insight, which are essential for managing and changing destructive behavioural patterns.


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CBT for aggression problems

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a method used to help individuals identify and transform negative thought patterns that contribute to anger and aggression. CBT teaches the client to challenge and change irrational thoughts and beliefs, leading to positive behavioural changes. In addition, the psychologist may incorporate other therapeutic strategies, such as mindfulness and relaxation techniques, which effectively reduce stress and increase emotional control.

Communication and conflict management

Psychologists can also work on improving communication skills and conflict management, which is particularly valuable for individuals struggling with aggression issues. Expressing their emotions healthily and constructively can reduce the frequency and intensity of aggressive outbursts. For some, group therapy can also be beneficial, as it provides an opportunity to learn from and share experiences with others facing similar challenges.

Medication for aggression problems

If necessary, the psychologist can work with other health care providers, such as a psychiatrist, to evaluate the need for medication, especially if there are signs of underlying mental health conditions that are contributing to the aggression problems.

Professional guidance

Psychologists offer a wide range of tools and strategies to help individuals with aggression problems. Their expertise can guide individuals towards a more peaceful and controlled existence, equipping them with the necessary skills to manage anger and aggression healthily. Seeking help from a psychologist is a courageous and decisive step towards regaining control over your behaviour and life.

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20 FAQs about Aggression Problems

How do you know if you have an aggression problem?

Aggression problems are often characterized by a tendency to react with anger or frustration in situations where it is not appropriate. Symptoms can include physical expressions such as fighting, shouting or throwing things, as well as psychological signs such as feelings of anger and frustration that feel difficult to control. If these reactions are recurrent and have a negative impact on your daily life, they may be signs of an aggression problem.

What are aggression problems?

An aggression problem is a pattern of behaviour in which a person regularly displays anger or aggression. This can include physical and verbal expressions of anger, such as shouting, swearing, hitting, or threatening. These problems can have different causes, such as stress, mental health conditions, or childhood experiences.

What can be done about aggression problems?

To deal with aggression problems, it is essential to first of all seek professional help, such as therapy or counselling. Other strategies include stress management techniques, mindfulness, and developing practical communication skills. Physical activity and hobbies that promote relaxation can also be helpful.

How do you deal with a person with aggression problems?

When dealing with a person with aggression problems, it is essential to remain calm and avoid confrontation. Listen actively and show understanding of the person’s feelings. Set clear boundaries and avoid provoking or escalating the situation. If the situation becomes threatening, prioritize your safety and seek necessary help.

What are the long-term effects of untreated aggression problems?

Untreated aggression problems can lead to a range of negative consequences, such as impaired relationships, work-related issues, and legal consequences. Psychologically, it can lead to increased stress, anxiety and depression. Therefore, seeking help early to manage and treat aggression problems is essential.

Are there different types of aggression problems?

Yes, there are different types of aggression problems. Impulsive aggression, where aggressive actions occur spontaneously and often in response to a provocative event, and instrumental aggression, where aggressive behaviour is more calculated and used to achieve a specific goal, require different treatment methods.

How do aggression problems affect relationships?

Aggression problems can negatively affect relationships, as they often lead to conflict and misunderstandings. It can make it difficult to maintain close relationships and create a sense of insecurity and fear in loved ones. Therefore, managing one’s aggression is essential for maintaining and improving relationships.

What role does communication play in managing aggression problems?

Effective communication is central to managing aggression problems. It involves learning to express one’s feelings in a healthy way, listening actively, and showing empathy. Improving communication skills can prevent misunderstandings and reduce the frequency of aggressive outbursts.

Can lifestyle changes help manage aggression problems?

Yes, lifestyle changes can play an essential role in managing aggression problems. Regulated sleep, a balanced diet, regular physical activity and avoiding substance abuse can help improve mood control and reduce aggression. Developing healthy coping strategies for stress is also essential.

Are aggression problems linked to other mental health conditions?

Aggression problems can sometimes be linked to other mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety disorders, PTSD, and some personality disorders. It is essential to seek professional help to determine an underlying cause for the aggression and to get an appropriate treatment plan.

Can children have aggression problems?

Yes, children can also experience aggression problems. It can manifest itself through outbursts, defiance, or physically aggressive actions. It is essential to seek help to understand the reasons behind the child’s behaviour and teach them how to manage their emotions healthily.

What role does self-awareness play in dealing with aggression problems?

Self-awareness is crucial in dealing with aggression problems. Recognizing signs of rising irritation or anger allows one to manage these feelings before they escalate into aggressive behaviour. This may involve taking a break, using relaxation techniques or seeking support.

Is medication an option for treating aggression problems?

In some cases, medication can be used as part of the treatment for aggression problems, especially when they are linked to other mental health conditions. Medication can help regulate mood and reduce the incidence of aggressive outbursts. However, this should always be done in consultation with a doctor.

Are there preventive measures to reduce the risk of aggression problems?

Preventive measures can include developing healthy coping strategies for stress, maintaining a balanced lifestyle, and seeking help at the first signs of problematic behaviour. Learning practical communication skills and self-regulation techniques is also essential in preventing aggression.

How can workplaces support employees with aggression problems?

Workplaces can play an important role by supporting employees with aggression problems. This can include access to psychological counselling, flexible working hours, a supportive work environment, and training for employees on how to deal with conflict constructively.

Are there community resources or support groups for people with aggression problems?

Yes, there are often community resources and support groups available for people with aggression problems. These resources may include therapeutic programs, self-help groups and online forums. Participating in such groups can provide support and strategies for coping with aggression, as well as a sense of community.

Can physical activity help reduce aggression problems?

Yes, regular physical activity can be effective in reducing aggression symptoms. Exercise releases endorphins, which contribute to improved mood and stress management. Yoga and mindfulness-based exercises can also increase self-awareness and control over emotional reactions.

How do alcohol and drugs affect aggression problems?

Alcohol and drugs can make aggression problems worse by reducing self-control and the ability to assess situations correctly. These substances can lead to increased impulsivity and aggressive behaviour and should be avoided by people who struggle with aggression.

Are aggression problems hereditary?

There are some indications that genetic factors may play a role in the development of aggression problems, but the environment and individual experiences are also very significant. A combination of genetic, psychological and social factors contribute to the development and management of aggression problems.

How can you distinguish between regular anger and an aggression problem?

Normal anger is a natural and healthy emotional response to certain situations and tends to be proportionate to the cause. Anger problems are characterized by excessive or unreasonable anger that is difficult to control, leads to destructive behaviour, and negatively affects the person’s life.

Can mindfulness and meditation be effective in dealing with aggression problems?

Yes, mindfulness and meditation are effective methods for dealing with aggression problems. These techniques help increase self-awareness, reduce stress, and improve emotional regulation. Through regular practice, individuals can learn to identify and manage triggers for aggression more constructively.

How can you support a friend or family member with aggression problems?

Supporting someone with an aggression problem requires patience, understanding, and empathy. It is important to listen without judgment and offer support in seeking professional help. By modelling healthy behaviours and communication methods, you can encourage healthy ways to manage stress and be a positive influence. Remember to take care of your emotional well-being in the process.

Managing aggression problems: A step-by-step guide

Dealing with anger issues is a challenge that requires patience and understanding. Below is a list of steps to help you deal with your aggression or support someone else.

1. Recognise the problem

  • Identify the feelings: Recognise when you feel anger or aggression and what triggers these feelings.
  • Acceptance: It is expected to feel anger, but it is essential to manage it healthily.

2. Seek professional help

  • Contact a therapist: Consider talking to a psychologist or therapist specialising in anger management.
  • Emergencies: If the aggression leads to violence or self-harm, call 112 immediately or seek emergency care.

3. Developing self-awareness

  • Journaling: Keeping a diary of situations that trigger aggression can help you identify patterns.
  • Self-reflection: Reflect on your reactions and what is behind them.

4. Learn coping techniques

  • Breathing techniques: Use deep breathing to calm down in moments of anger.
  • Relaxation techniques: Try meditation or yoga to reduce stress levels.

5. Improve communication

  • Expressing emotions: Learn to express your feelings constructively without becoming aggressive.
  • Active listening: Listen to others and try to understand their point of view.

6. Create a positive environment

  • Supportive networks: Surround yourself with people who support your efforts to deal with aggression.
  • Avoid triggers: Identify and avoid situations that tend to trigger your anger.

7. Create an action plan

  • Goals and strategies: Set realistic goals for managing your anger and develop strategies for dealing with challenging situations.
  • Evaluate and adjust: Regularly evaluate your success and adjust your plan if necessary.

8. Continue with self-development

  • Long-term goals: Continue to work on understanding and controlling your aggression.
  • Lifestyle changes: Make healthy changes that reduce stress and promote well-being.

Remember, we make the hard things easier. Dealing with aggression issues is a journey, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. These steps are a start, and with the proper support and commitment, achieving a more balanced and healthy management of aggression is possible.


Written by Samantha Pieterse

Sr. Samantha Pieterse is a registered psychiatric nurse who is deeply committed to mental health and well-being. Samantha brings a unique and valuable perspective to her role as an editor for Lavendla South Africa. She has worked in Government and Private mental healthcare institutions in Gauteng and her expertise ensures that the articles on our website are accurate and accessible. Samantha is dedicated to enhancing mental health awareness and education in South Africa.