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Struggling with a difficult past, relationship issues, or depression? Schema therapy can offer support and relief.

What is schema therapy?

Schema therapy is an evidence-based therapy developed to treat people with long-term patterns of problematic behaviour, particularly those associated with various personality disorders. It is influenced by Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and integrates elements from attachment theory, gestalt therapy, and dynamic therapy. Unlike traditional CBT, Schema Therapy focuses more on childhood experiences and the relationship between the therapist and the client.

The method, developed by psychologist Jeffrey Young, is a further development of CBT adapted for treating more prolonged and complex problems where traditional CBT has not proved effective.

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Who can benefit from schema therapy?

Schema therapy can be helpful for different problem areas. Do you tend to get stuck in destructive relationships, are jealous, and are constantly fearful of rejection and abandonment by friends and partners? Do you find breaking patterns, controlling emotions and impulses difficult or feeling empty and indifferent? If you have high demands on yourself, an insatiable need for affirmation, are plagued by recurrent shame and guilt and feel like a wrong person?

If so, schema therapy may be for you. Schema therapy is used to treat people with complex psychological problems, such as personality disorders, relationship problems, chronic depression and anxiety.

What is a schema?

Schema is a concept in cognitive psychology that describes different patterns or beliefs you create through your experiences. They are a bit like internal maps. These beliefs about ourselves and the world are the basis for our actions. If you don’t get your basic emotional needs met as a child, you can react to stress in different ways and develop patterns and behaviours that don’t always match how situations look when you get older. This can lead to problems in relationships and the development of mental health problems.

During treatment, people explore and understand their schemas and develop strategies to challenge and change them. They have identified 18 different common schemas that can cause problems. There is also a term in schema therapy called ‘mode’, a more situational form of schema. For example, you might act a bit like a child, a demanding or critical parent, or a healthier adult in a particular situation. The treatment helps to change patterns that do not make you feel good.

The basics of schema therapy are:

  1. Schemes: Schemes are deeply rooted and stable patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that develop during childhood and shape how an individual interprets and responds to the world. These schemas can be adaptive or maladaptive.
  2. Basic emotional needs: Schema therapy identifies each individual’s basic emotional needs, called core needs. Examples of such needs include participation, autonomy, and competence.
  3. Self: The therapy explores how early experiences affect a person’s self-image and how this can lead to negative self-schemes and emotions.
  4. Parental Mode: Therapy includes the concept of “Parental Mode,” which describes inner voices and attitudes that a person internalizes from their parents and other authority figures.
  5. Changing schemas: The goal of schema therapy is to identify and change maladaptive schemas and promote the development of more adaptive ways of thinking, feeling, and acting.

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Treatment with schema therapy

An important part of schema therapy is that the client learns to identify and manage their own emotional needs and to develop better ways to meet their needs. It is a comprehensive treatment that focuses on changing the personality and the basic thought patterns inherited from childhood.

Schema therapy includes three treatment phases based on emotion-focused techniques, cognitive techniques and strategies to break behavioural patterns. It also includes relaxation training, emotion management and exposure. The therapist treats the individual with empathy, support, safety and warmth. Schema Therapy can be conducted individually or in a group format. The length of treatment depends on the severity of the client’s problems and individual needs.


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12 FAQs about Schema Therapy

What is schema therapy?

Schema therapy is an evidence-based therapy developed to treat people with long-term patterns of problematic behaviour.

What is a schema?

Schema is a concept in cognitive psychology that describes different patterns or beliefs you create through your experiences. They are a bit like internal maps.

How does a treatment with schema therapy work?

Schema therapy includes three treatment phases based on emotion-focused techniques, cognitive techniques, and strategies for breaking behavioural patterns.

How long is a treatment with schema therapy?

The length of treatment depends on the severity of the client’s problems and individual needs. It is difficult to say exactly how long the treatment will be.

What tools and techniques are used in schema therapy?

The treatment uses cognitive techniques such as restructuring, psychoeducation, relaxation training, emotion management, and exposure. The therapist’s relationship with the client is also important, with empathy, support, safety, and warmth.

Who can be helped by schema therapy?

Schema therapy is used to treat people with complex psychological problems, such as personality disorders, relationship problems, chronic depression and anxiety.

What is the basis of schema therapy?

The therapy is influenced by Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) but also integrates ideas from attachment theory, gestalt therapy and dynamic therapy.

Can I process my childhood with schema therapy?

Schema therapy is designed to treat difficult childhood experiences, so it is a form of therapy that works well for that.

Can I get schema therapy through Lavendla?

We have licensed psychologists and therapists available online. You are welcome to book on our website.

What is a schema therapist?

A psychologist or psychotherapist who has further training in schema therapy and is qualified to provide the treatment.

Where can I turn if I need help?

At Lavendla, we have experienced psychologists and therapists working with schema therapy who can help you feel better. If you have thoughts of self-harm or suicidal thoughts, call the emergency line or the nearest emergency room.

How does schema therapy work?

Here is a general overview of how schema therapy might work:

  1. Assessment visit: The therapist begins treatment with a thorough assessment to understand the client’s background, past experiences and current problems.
  2. Psychoeducation: The therapist introduces the client to basic schema therapy concepts and provides insight into how early experiences may have shaped maladaptive schemas.
  3. Schema identification: Together with the client, the therapist identifies maladaptive schemas and their impact on the client’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviours.
  4. Exploring origins: The therapist helps the client explore and understand the origins of the problems, often by examining early childhood experiences and relationships.
  5. Change work: The therapist and client work together to challenge and change maladaptive schemas through cognitive and behavioural strategies. This may include challenging negative self-schemes and building more positive and adaptive ways of thinking about oneself and others.
  6. Using the “parent mode”: The therapist helps the client become aware of and change the inner voices and attitudes that come from the inner “parent mode,” which can be negative and self-critical.
  7. Strengthening adaptive schemas: The therapist supports the client in identifying and strengthening adaptive schemas and positive self-schemas.
  8. Implementation in reality: The client practices and implements the new insights and behavioural patterns in their daily life.

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Written by Samantha Pieterse

Sr. Samantha Pieterse is a registered psychiatric nurse who is deeply committed to mental health and well-being. Samantha brings a unique and valuable perspective to her role as an editor for Lavendla South Africa. She has worked in Government and Private mental healthcare institutions in Gauteng and her expertise ensures that the articles on our website are accurate and accessible. Samantha is dedicated to enhancing mental health awareness and education in South Africa.